eHarmony.com Review

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richelmore
Chattanooga, TN

Avoid, Avoid, Avoid

not rich, Every day computer user, dating, single, practical, value conscious, college student, Open-minded

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Pros

claims great success, increases odds for meeting eople

Cons

wears one out going through process, anti gay, expensive, 80% of referrals do not acknowledge

AUG

2008

eHarmony.com —

After one particularly boring weekend, my lonesome little self decided to track down a little online love. Of course I was cautious and careful but even more than that, I was honest and serious in the search. I wanted to find someone compatible, even if just to chat with. The price was a little steep so I tried to get a discount by signing up for the 12-month plan, on which you can pay in three installments of $83 and some change. This is expensive for my poor, almost-Ramen-eating college self, just so you know.

Actually, I was on the trial version and after one particularly fascinating and cute connection, I had to sign up to continue talking...so I did. This match looked wonderful and was so interesting. We chatted for a while and it seemed like things were doing well and then, voila, SILENCE.

This suddenly became a recurring theme.

On the advice page, we are told to write to all of our matches, just so we didn't limit anything. As one to take advantage of any costly service, I made sure to do my very best. What was I stuck with? Absolute losers. Big stinkers. Ego-maniacs and jerks, overly sensitive and overly demanding "good guys." Then there were the ones who were...ok. They'd write back to my questions that I sent half-heartedly and then wanted to be "friendly."

It got pathetic and I felt pathetic for using it. The service was probably ok if you were willing to go in for the long-haul and start a long-term relationship with eHarmony instead of an actual person. That's just not in my budget or my interest.

Then it got worse. I turned off the matching service so I wouldn't get any more blasted messages and tried to follow the steps to close the account. Nothing ever worked. I even searched online to find tips and tricks from others on how to officially leave. Once I got a link that eHarmony didn't actually offer on their own page, as if they were seriously trying to keep people hooked onto their service. Eventually, one reviewer said that you have to remove your credit card information or they would always charge you. Fortunately, there are credit card numbers that the major companies keep open but that are not connected to a charge account. This finally did the trick.The service continued for a couple more weeks until they finally cut me off with my fake data. It took forever and was so frustrating.

If you want to try and think you'll be able to just turn away from it, don't. You're wrong. You won't get a refund (very limited time frame to request one and lots of hoops to jump through to get it) and you probably won't find love. You might have a good time and a few nice conversations but overall, a waste of time, energy, and money.

Also, if you're young young (I'm 20), it was pointless even trying. The guys either wanted marriage or "relations." Good grief.

Update: Actually, after writing this last night, I checked my inbox this morning and found that eHarmony sent me an email about removing the "On Hold" option from the matching process so apparently I'm still enrolled! Fortunately, they aren't getting my money.

Last edited on Aug 24, 2008

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Comments about richelmore’s Review

Maybe you'll meet the right guy at the next ice cream free-for-all sale at the supermarket! Stranger things have happened! Well, I'm going offline for the night. Catch ya tomorrow!

In response to AnnaBanana's comment from Aug 24, 2008 at 10:43PM:

Aw, thanks so much! You are so sweet. Haha, I know exactly where you are coming from with that peanut butter and bread story. Fortunately, I can still manage to afford fruits and vegetables but am definitely learning the fine art of buying only the basics (which somehow always seems to include ice cream!). And who needs to pay for online dating when there's ice cream to be bought?! Chocolate chip cookie dough or a shoddy dating service? Um, my vote is ALWAYS for the former!

I've got to tell you, I love this review! Secretly, I've always wondered what this was like and I suspected as much -- it was too good to be true and you know what THAT means. Incidentally, I remember my own Ramen-eating days too. When I was just a kid starting out, I shudder to think of how many weeks I got by on just a loaf of bread and a jar of peanut butter! So don't you let them push you around and grab your money. Take care -- you're a beautiful girl and you will find someone good on your own.