Baby Discussion Board

Inducing labor....

AngiBowman — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:30:30 GMT

With my first I had to be induced due to pre-eclampsia around 8 months in the pregnanfce. With my second I had a c-section. Induction can really save lives if necessary, and I really listen to the doctor to avoid any problems.

The only real issues with induction is that it gives you false contractions - it's VERY harsh compared to natural contractions, which work with your body to give birth. My friend has had one of both (natural and induced) and she agreed that the induction birth was painful and long compared with her natural birth.

The things children say

AngiBowman — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:22:45 GMT

We were looking at baby photos and our four-year old stood up and said, "when I am grown up, I am going to grow a baby in my tummy, and I'm going to name her Bailey."

I had to leave the room to laugh. We're going to touch on that subject in a few years.

Freebies for Babies

AngiBowman — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:08:16 GMT

I don't know about all Chick-Fil-A, but the one here in Olathe is having a Family Portrait Night where you get a free 5 x 7 and photo session.

Also check local hospitals for events - a local one here had an event day that included free pizza (organic even!), drinks and dessert on top of balloons, fire hats and just plain fun stuff.

See if your local grocery store has a baby program. Our local HyVee has one. I never know all of the details, but if you earn 200 baby points, you can a free $10 gift card or something like that.

do your baby like music or cartoons the most

AngiBowman — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 21:24:36 GMT

Our kids LOVE music. They Might Be Giants makes some great songs - Here Come the ABCS, 123s and Science really are catching for US and fun for THEM. It taught our son how to add in Spanish (basic and pretty useless in the real world) and how to sound out words. Pretty cool!

They even come with DVDs of music videos, which is fun for the kids to watch.

I can't believe my kid did that!

Sjperry1985 — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:48:45 GMT

Katrena,

That is a very cute story. Children are so amazing!!

Thumb sucking

jazac4 — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 23:52:18 GMT

my son started sucking his thumd at 6months old,and he did it for a long time,i had tryed eveything to break him ,at the age of 5 he started to outgrow it.and he has not done it since.

Thumb sucking

annawiggins6 — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 18:27:29 GMT

One Step Up makes a guard to put on their fingers at night to help them stop sucking their thumb or any other fingers, I haven't used them, but I saw it in their catalog

I can't believe my kid did that!

Katrena — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 04:24:39 GMT

I read about this one the other day and thought I'd pass it along to give everyone a laugh. I haven't verified whether or not it's the truth, but it sure sounds like something that could very possibly happen.

A mom said her child asked her what her sanitary napkins were for. The mom decided to tell the child that they were for "special occasions." A few days later the mom was bustling around the house getting ready for company and asked the child to set the table. The doorbell rang and she let everyone in. The guests (and the host) were amazed to see--you guess it--placed in the middle of each plate.

Who has their tubes tied? No more babies...

Fardreamer — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 16:58:06 GMT

Michele, a friend of mine from high school, who was married to another friend of mine, had two daughters with her then-husband when she got it into her head that she just had to adopt his grandkids. Her stepson and his wife were both into alcohol and drugs, neither of them held steady jobs, and DCF was already in the process of taking custody of the three kids (a six-year-old girl, a four-year-old boy and a six-week-old baby boy).

Michele was then 36, still very attractive and of course shared a very healthy romantic life with her hubby, so in order to prevent more pregnancies, she had her tubes tied and cauterized as well. And at the time she was happy with her decision. She got her wish, she and her hubby adopted the kids as their own, and for a while everything went well.

I'm not privy to what happened a few years later, and even if I was I'd not tell the whole world, but after a while the marriage soured and she divorced (nastily, too) her now-ex husband and ran off to New England. Part of it was, I'm sure, caused by regret and post tubal-ligation depression that later surfaced.

Who has their tubes tied? No more babies...

vivasuzi — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 16:43:30 GMT

Pitcherday, it wasn't you that made me feel that my opinion was wrong. I think you and I are having a good conversation and I want you to know I respect your opinions and decisions. I agree, anyone who has sex takes the chance. Hence why I waited til I was married.

I'm not saying that no one needs surgery. I am only speaking of myself. I don't need it, nor want it. My statement that all my family and friends stopped having kids was that they did not need surgery either. When they were done, they were done and took pills or whatever. Basically, I don't know anyone who has had the surgery and these are the people I rely on when it comes to big decisions such as this. I tend to learn from the experience of my friends and family.

I know you personally don't want children, and it's fine for you to do what you felt you wanted to do. I just hope no one of any age takes it lightly. Especially younger people who's opinions can change over time.

I just want to make it clear that when any of us give our opinion of what we would do in our own lives, I do not believe we are trying to dictate how the world as a whole should do it. At least that's not what I am trying to do.

Who has their tubes tied? No more babies...

pitcherday — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 16:16:10 GMT

It's just like you're saying "well, you got married so you take the chance!" anyone who has sexual intercourse takes a chance. and I thought you were implying that all your friends had just stopped when they wanted kids with traditional form of contraception, so it's pretty easy w/o surgery.

I didn't think your opinion was wrong. It just seemed like a blanket statement that no one needs surgery. Obviously, I don't have a "come what may" attitude concerning having children. Bob had his surgery and doesn't regret it. Lots of doctors do counsel younger people on surgical sterilization.

Who has their tubes tied? No more babies...

vivasuzi — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 13:38:38 GMT

I never said they shouldn't have the choice, I just don't think they should jump into anything rash. I'm just saying that if I personally had done this when I was younger and single, I would fully regret it now.

Btw - Everyone's opinion is biased based on things that have happened in their life. It doesn't make their opinion wrong. The point of a message board is to discuss varying opinions and I answer for myself and try to give reasons why I believe the way I do. It doesn't mean anyone's opinion is wrong, it just means it's different.

I would rather not have to feel like my opinion doesn't matter just because I'm married, or "childless" in another thread. A person's personal situation should not make their opinion any less valid.

Who has their tubes tied? No more babies...

Nancy44 — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 05:51:08 GMT

Wellll, I didn't suffer through my surgery or afterwards at all~! I had the weekend to recover after a Friday lasering through my belly button.

I was single, not in a relationship and had planned my surgery for 8 years. My son's father and I also planned our son, and I'm very glad I STOPPED after one. I can't speak for him, he wasn't around much and I did the absolute best that I could.

I totally agree that single people should have the choice too. Marital status biased much vivasuzi? Not a thing has changed in my mind or in the mind of my uterus. I'm glad I made up my mind then and am very happy today being 1000% sterile. I hope you have lots of kids, as many as you want. And I hope you don't get jinxed.

Who has their tubes tied? No more babies...

vivasuzi — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 04:52:52 GMT

Well I took that risk the second I got married, knowing pills are only 99% effective. I would love and care for any child. Obviously we had planned to wait until we were completely ready, but I knew as soon as we got married that whatever happened happened. It might have actually been easier if the pills fail because then I wouldn't have time to think about pregnancy and the 9 months of torture!

Surgery means I have to suffer (or my husband would). I'm never doing it. If it means I accidently get pregnant after we are "done" so be it. I believe in fate and that you can't plan everything in life (because if you try to then you just stress when your plans fail)

You may feel differently because you never want kids. I do want kids so I'll take whatever comes my way!

BTW - I don't agree that single people should just go get surgery right away. When I was younger, I didn't think I wanted kids (mostly because I was scared of actually having them). What if I had done surgery way back then? Things change as you grow up and things change as you find someone you love. So 10 years ago I may have said I don't want kids, but 5 years ago I would be saying "maybe" and now I want them.

Thumb sucking

vivasuzi — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 04:48:17 GMT

My sister seems to have discouraged it from her son and her newborn by giving them a pacifier at the first signs of putting fingers in their mouth. Then she slowly eased my nephew off the pacifier. I don't remember when he stopped with that, but he is 2 now and I never see him sucking on a pacifier or his fingers. SO I think the idea is to squash it before it starts.

Thumb sucking

RudiXeno — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 04:07:26 GMT

While true, most children engage in comfort sucking rather than hard sucking. The incidence of palate deformation and permanent speech impediment is relatively rare.

Who has their tubes tied? No more babies...

pitcherday — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 03:31:26 GMT

Is there a gender bias? I kind of thought it was case-by-case. If you are in a committed relationship, you'll have the conversation. I think the consensus is that no one wants surgery and both of them require recovery times. Generally speaking, tubal ligation is more invasive. I seriously doubt there is a high mortality rate associated with it.

If you just take a random poll, maybe men will say the women should do it. I don't really care about men, just one man. It's a personal conversation, and if he was against it so much, I would have gone under the knife. I'd like to think people in relationships aren't strong-arming each other into sterilization surgery, emotionally speaking.

If you are single and don't want kids ever, then you should be the one to do it, no matter which gender you are.

Thumb sucking

lilsquibb — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 02:45:52 GMT

RudiXeno said…

No, of course it's not true. It's the type of statement that Orthodontists refer to as "practice development".

True not bucked teeth... but there is the possibility of effecting the development of the palate (the back of the upper mouth.) Too much hard sucking for small children can cause this as well as impead some speech development.

Who has their tubes tied? No more babies...

bkovacs — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 02:30:47 GMT

pitcherday said…

Bob, things have come A LONG WAY since you had yours. My husband had a very easy time. This review is about this procedure and I wrote it to ease guys' fears about vasectomy.

I read your review and it is excellent -- thanks for sharing! I still stand by what I said, though.. it's easy for a woman to think there's nothing much to getting a vasectomy because it isn't happening to her. I'm not saying that I walked around like a chimpanzee for a couple of weeks, but there was definitely some discomfort.

If you ask men about who should get sterilized, a significant percentage will say that the woman should... because it's such a simple procedure. I'm not saying they're right. I'm just saying that we all need to watch our gender bias. Something unpleasant is always easier if it happens to someone else.

--Bob

do your baby like music or cartoons the most

lecitamarie — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 00:51:28 GMT

Both, she love's to sing Christian song, and every-time she hears any kind of song she dance too, and she love's to watch cartoons, esp. Mickey Mouse Clubhouse.