Buyer Beware - Not all that it claims to be
MAY
1
2008
Match.com —
I joined Match.com after a friend of mine (who was 10 years younger than I was) coaxed me into it since she had met her boyfriend on match. My experience was much different and I started to take "surveys" from members who I contacted or contacted me and was very surprised to hear the same thing over and over from men. First, I found personally if you live more than 50 miles away from someone they think it is too much effort and consider it long distance and won't pursue it. Secondly, I found through my research that some of the men I met had been on the site from 3 to 5 years. Hmmm, what does that say? Either they are just in it for fun and games or they want the "perfect" woman and can't find anyone who is "perfect" to live up to their image of perfection. I got this complaint from many men I spoke with, emailed, or met that they were having the same experiences with women in that they wanted the "perfect" man and although they seemed to be very nice they weren't "perfect". If you live in a smaller area like I do where there isn't a large city there just weren't enough members in my particular area, for example, that were in my age range etc., that were within 50 miles. I did a search for 250 miles and came up with a few possibilities but when I emailed them they basically said "too far" and back to square one. I had to pay for 6 months up front which was over $100 but even though they boast "find someone or get 6 months free" beware of the very fine print, I missed it when I signed up as it is a separate little link you have to be aware of and if you don't follow every guideline in it ...you don't get the 6 months free. All in all I found a lot of game players and it could depend on your age bracket on how successful you will be, I found a LOT of men in their 50's to 60's looking for women 35-45 which basically leaves women 50+ in their minds not "HOT". They have a lot of men out there not looking for something serious with a woman that can offer a lot of substance, quality and a relationship at a much deeper level than the "barbie" they are looking for. Don't get me wrong here either, I have been told by all the men that contacted me or that I have contacted that I am very attractive so it's not the looks that are the problem it's the number they have a problem with and we are proving every day that we can turn circles around the younger women they think will keep them young because they are 20 years younger than they are...it is only a number and there needs to be more men of substance that are willing to see that and this site didn't offer that. I have heard from many men that they have also found photos that are not up to date of women and I have found that to be true of several men I met and they are not always truthful from what I have experience and what I found from those I spoke with. I was given an additional 6 months free after I fought for it, but I will not be renewing and haven't really found that special someone and I have been told by many of the men I met or spoke with they won't be renewing so it really is "buyer beware". Before you plunk down $100 or more which they make you buy 6 months at one time it would be nice if you could try it out for a month or two to see if it works for you without the obligation but it doesn't work that way, you might want to really look at the profiles in your 50 mile range and really consider their profile much more closely. If you live in a big city or in a highly populated area, I would suspect you could do better, but if you live in a smaller area (I live in a population of about 100,000 plus) you may find it more challenging when the profiles that match you more closely are over 50 miles. I have only met two people outside the 50 mile mark and it took several months for them to finally work out a schedue so to speak to make the drive and they weren't really that far, maybe 2 hour drive, but most just aren't going to put the effort into it and would rather settle for what is "convenient" than really looking at the person as maybe the right person isn't in your backyard. I will close with a thought on this, I went to school with a lady that was born, raised and lived in Greece. Her now husband, was from the USA. He was in the service (this was about 20 years ago) and they were "pen pals". He realized she is what he wanted, and although she wasn't "50 miles away" he saw the person and not the distance. He went to Greece, proposed, brought her back to the states, married her and 20 years later they have two kids and are very happy together. I believe it worked because both of them ignored the distance and saw the person and new it was right. Match.com has a lot of men, as I experienced, and I am sure women too although I didn't speak to as many, that think they are going to find someone with all the characteristics, values, qualities, beliefs, ethics etc., in their backyard and they continue to step over diamonds to pick up pennies.
Match.com is not recommended by jasdell
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