My younger sound had a lot of issues with bullying when he was young because he wore glasses (which now everyone does it seems), and because he was a quiet, shy, and passive kid. He would be picked on, on the bus and in school. Kids would name call and make him feel awful. He would come home crying and begging me to home school him.
It turned to TRUE bullying when some of the "cool boys" decided to see how far they could push him. They stole his backpack and scattered everything everywhere. Now, my son then was still finding himself. He was coming off a debilitating seizure disorder and was just learning who he was. When that incident occurred, he had had it. I think the other kids could see the change in him. He didn't fight. I taught him not to ever start a fight. But he apparently had a look on his face that scared those jerks because they started to back off as my son was picking up his stuff. I think he was probably beet red and ready to explode.
I called the principal and he called the kids and my son in to talk to them. they denied it. The usual bull. They were warned and my son was commended for not acting out but chastised for not telling on the kids at the time it all went down.
Fast forward. My son had a growth spurt when he was in 8th or 9th grade. He found himself. He went from a little squirt to a 6'3" bruiser who didn't have to say a word to have people move aside when he walked down the hall. No one on the bus would so much as say an unkind word to him and he never once was violent or even said anything to those who once pushed him around.
Suddenly the same kids who were calling him four eyes and tossing his stuff around as well as pushing him around in the bathrooms wanted to hang out with him. I believe in turning the other cheek. My son does too. But he was not friends with these kids because he doesn't like people who bully. He had/has lots of good friends and they formed a group to help young kids to deal with bullying. They go to schools and talk to the kids about their own experiences and about how to handle it. I am proud of him for taking a negative and turning into a positive.
Thank the Lord he got my father's genes and grew so tall and muscular. lol.
Katrena, I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. I just HATE bullying. i was a victim of it myself as a young kid and the scars remain to this day. Parents need to teach their kids to treat everyone with respect and to keep their hands (and feet) OFF other kids. I am so glad I am past that issue. It was heartbreaking as a mother to see my kid so upset because little jerks bullied him. I think I hold a grudge and he doesn't. He says it's all what kids let other kids get away with. Maybe but parents needs to teach their kids to leave other kids alone.And schools need to have zero tolerance when it comes to bullying.
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