Divorce Review

Let me start off saying, I'm old enough to be a Grandpa, but I'm a Dad.  It took 44 years to get me to the altar. 

If you plan on getting married...get a background check!  In defense of the gals out there, I'm sure this applies to both sexes.  If I had known half of the stuff about my "EX" before the marriage, I never would have done it.  So many lies & truths withheld.

Lie #1) Are you on birth control?  "YES." was her answer.  "The pill?" I question further.  Again, the answer was, "Yes."  I must have asked that question at least 3 times.  Guess what?  Three months later...she's pregnant.  Doing the "honorable" thing...I married her, so my son could have a Dad.

Lie #2) Actually, truth withheld: I asked how she ever ended up with a room-mate so much younger than herself.  "We met in the hospital." was her reply.  I figured it was a "woman's thing" better left alone.  I dropped the subject.  After we were married, she told me which hospital -- Malcolm Bliss, the "nut house" in St. Louis.  Both of them, attempted suicide.

Lie #3) After a long period between marriages, I was to be hubby #2.  I found out from hubby #1 that I was actually hubby #3.  She is now on #4...unless she got divorced AGAIN.

Lie #4) "I'll never withhold your son from you."  She walked out the door in the middle of the night...with my son.  Three weeks later in court, custody is established.  Four months later she moves, does not inform either the courts or me as to her new location.  I didn't see my son for 3 months.  I had to hire a new attorney & a private investigator to track her down.  If I followed her home from work, that would be "stalking" & I would be arrested.  After marrying hubby #4, she moves again.  For about a year I didn't know where my son was.

Lie #5) "We'll work together with his school and discipline."  Last year, he was suspended twice from school, that I know of.  The first time I took away his video & computer games for just one day.  The second time, I told him it would be for a week.  He ran screaming out of the room, "I HATE YOU!  I never want to see you again.  I'm going to live with Mom...permanently."   And he has.  I did receive one phone call from him since.  "Guess what Dad?  Mom bought me a new Nintendo Wii."  Who would you rather live with?

Once again...I do not know his or her whereabouts.  The VA, in 2003, proclaimed me unable to work & placed me on a pension.  The family court system refuses to recognize that and still states I owe THOUSANDS in back child support.  I don't have to fill out an income tax return because it is "non-reportable" income.  But yet, when I applied for the "stimulus package" check of $300...she got the whole thing.

Why am I telling all of this?  Because I'm about to cancel both my home phone & Internet to save money.  Not counting the divorce, I have spent about $10,000 in attorney & private investigative fees.  I live in POVERTY!  It's been nice meeting all of you.  So long...