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Perfect for quick 'relief', and even, sometimes, more!
quality conscious, a pet owner, I believe in honesty, not rich, Every day computer user
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APR
9
2008
I, of course, used excellent cyber-protection (port blockers/ firewall/ antivirus/ anti-trojanware, at the least),and would hope anyone else attempting this endeavor for the first time/s do likewise: one never knows what computer virii (or lurkers) are about. ;-> Additionally, it's important not to give away any personal information in your profile, or, should you dare to--in posting photos.
And let me say that photos on AFF(as it's most frequently called) are not for the timid. Males of the species are proud of their "members" and choose, oh, so indelicately, to glaringly send pictures (without even knowing you, mind you) so that THAT is the first thing greeting you in your AFF Cupid's Inbox frequently. Quite the eyeopener.
Eventually, that becomes a nuisance and the random penii are just another thing one deletes as any other spam....
But real, often kindly people do exist on AFF (many who don't choose introductory genitalia, necessarily!), and connections can and do occur, with regularity.
A free "Standard" account worked for me, since women are in demand and men will contact you regularly and send you their pictures freely. However, you're only allowed a certain number of profile views and can only respond ten times to a single member per day (which is, actually, generous).
Men might want to purchase a month-to-month account because of the above limitations and since you can't view any of the women's profile pics without at least Silver or Gold standing (that's the word from my now-partner/boyfriend, who I met on AFF -- he was a Silver member).
Yes, that's right, I met an actual "keeper" on Adult Friend Finder! In fact, after making several cyber contacts with other males on AFF, I didn't find one I was comfortable enough to meet in person until I got to the "phone stage" with my now-boyfriend. We talked for three hours the first time we spoke; it was the strangest thing how many things we had in common....
We did make a date to, um, interact, setting it for a couple days hence where we'd meet up at a public site to see how comfortable we were physically. However, we clicked SO well, that we didn't, uh, interact. It seemed we had SO MUCH in common and felt SO comfortable with each other that something was definitely special--we'd never had that with other partners.
Long story short, that was a little over four years ago (March 13, 2004 -- the day we met in person) and we still feel the same way.
But AFF was a fun experience for me, even with its silliness. I was able to explore opportunities and possibilities (even if only in my mind, through emails, pictures and a couple phone calls) that I hadn't known about from other, tamer dating sites.
My partner had been a frequent user of AFF's, um, 'services,' before we got together and told me about how it typically works. People meet at a public place (or in some instances at each other's homes), possibly moving on to a hotel/motel room (or again, to one or the other's home), then "interact," and leave, often not hearing from each other again, although sometimes meeting again and/or with others.
With that in mind, another safety warning: please always make sure at least one other person knows with whom you're supposed to meet (remember, not everyone's as honest as you ;-> ). Make sure someone knows where, exactly, you'll be, at what exact times, and give your contact numbers.
Most importantly, honor your own judgement when it comes to first impressions and how it feels when you meet a person--if you don't feel "right" or safe or comfortable or whatever (it shouldn't be any different online, on a telephone, or in person)--you don't owe a relative stranger any explanation: LEAVE IMMEDIATELY! You can email something later, when you're safe at home.
Just have fun out there and watch out for those intermittent AFF "members" -- they're everywhere! :)
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